a new look at at an old verse

"For God so loved the world the He sent His only begotten Son that who so ever believe in Him would not perish but have eternal life."  John 3:16  (Note: that verse is from memory).  This is one verse that makes Calvinism look bad.  This promise is for anyone!  Not just those pre-elect, the elect, the selected, anyone!  This verse is an open invitation.  This verse has no stipulations with it.  Calvinism says that Jesus died for the elect and no one else.  If that is true then why did Jesus bear the sins of the whole world?  (I know I will get flack for this.)  I have read Calvin's "Institutes" and it is a cleaver work.  One can infer from Calvinism that there those predestined for Hell by God.  Calvinism can very easily paint a warped picture of God.    You will find nothing in the Bible that says anyone is pre-destined for Hell.  You will find nothing in the Bible that says God enjoys the death and destruction of anyone.  And yet Calvinism by means of logical outcome, foster this nasty portrayal of God.  Think about it:  If God predestines some  for heaven, then by neglect or decree He supposedly predestines some for Hell?  What is wrong with this picture folks?  Much!  If predestination is true then Billy Graham wasted his time preaching didn't he?  Oh your saying we don't know who is predestined so we must keep preaching to the unsaved!  Well it is God who saves not Billy Graham and it is Calvinist who promote God's control sovereignty.  Maybe I have said too much; so let me get back to the main point:  God is extremely loving, gracious and kind as illustrated by the verse in John 3:16.  Calvinism on the other hand can ultimately undermine Christianity.